My Life In Picture Form.

I just wanted to put up some pics from the last year with some of the most amazing people I’ve met/been with.

 This is the and “C” crew. BC, NC and WC. This was taken at the Borgata in February when we, along with 6 of my other friends went to go see David Guetta perform for my birthday. It was one of the best birthdays ever, even though I was sick as a dog leading up to it!!

This is my “big sis” Nicole and I at her birthday. We have been friends since I was about five. She was turning 3o so we’ve been friends for a while! I was sucha  fool that night! I need more nights like this with her! Love her.

 This is Martha and I taken at her birthday in NYC. Needless to say, I got really drunk and fell flat on my face in front of a bunch of people at the bar. It was the funniest things I have ever done.

This is Elissa and I at our softball game. Clearly the two hottest players on the team. And we are pretty good at playing ball too!

This was taken on the train coming from NYC. I ran into my friend Cass at the train stop when my boy Carlos and I went to go see our friend Patricia’s show. We ended up not making to the show but we went out after and had some beers and got to hang out in Times Square. Totally my fault that we missed the show.

Saturdays are Tradition!! Ashley, the one on the left, and I go to the city every weekend and party hard in Hell’s Kitchen. This time we brought our friend Leah to come party for us. We were drunk before we got there and Leah ended up spilling half of her drink on the train. We knew then it was going to be a great night! We got home at 7am. It was a great night!

This is Ashley and I at the train station on another one of our Saturday adventures to the city! I love this picture because we ended up having matching outfits on and we didn’t plan that. Also, we both lost weight and both look awesome in this picture! It’s def one of my favorites from the year!

This was one of the best times in Atlantic City that I have ever had. Trust me, I’ve had a lot of good times in AC but this one takes the cake. My buddy Alex and I drove down to see our girl Jamie. We went on a booze cruise around the harbor of AC and then we went to the new resort, Revel. We went to Ivan Kane’s Royal Jelly Burlesque Club and I was like a kid in a candy shop. It was def a great time and we partied all night! Jamie even found a ton of money on the casino floor when we were leaving! She clearly bought the first round at 5am!

The Lying Game

There are two things that I don’t ever lie about: family members dying and being sick. Those are the two things that will get you into trouble every time, guaranteed. If you lie about a family member dying, they are going too. If you lie about being sick to get out of something, you will get sick and it will be worse than you made it sound. Karma has way too much fun with that and will get you back three times as bad.

That being said, I have been sick for four days now. I want to rip my throat out, that’s how bad the pain has been. I can’t go to the doctor because I have no insurance either. I work two jobs and have no insurance. Awesome. I am just glad that I am starting to feel a tiny bit better. Yesterday my body just ached. I never felt my body hurt like that before. I’ve done some stupid things too so that is a new one for me.

When it comes to lying though, why do we have to do it sometimes? Do we think that our friends will be more heartbroken if we tell them the truth? I rather have someone tell me the truth and make me hate them at that moment then wait and me find out from someone else will really happened. Because then, not only will I hate you, I will hate you with a passion and I will go out of my way to make your life miserable. I’ve been known to be called a “pit bull.” I can be your best friend. As your best friend, I will do anything for you. I will walk to the end of the Earth and back to get you what you need or to hurt whoever harmed you. But if you double cross me, I am the last person you want to mess with. I have no problem forgetting about things, including you  as a person. That’s a side of me you don’t ever want to see. Trust me, the few people who have, regret it. I would rather someone mess with me then with someone I care about. That’s how I have always been and I guess it’s how I always will be.

Another thing about lying, I have to say this much. If you are going to lie, at least make up a good lie. Recently, I’ve heard some pretty terrible lies and it makes me want to smack people. I don’t condone lying but if you need to lie about something, at least be smart enough to come up with something good. Don’t say your car won’t start when you just bought a brand new 2013 car. Say there’s traffic or a road is closed. Or just admit that you are running late. It won’t end the world. People aren’t as dumb as others seem to think. Also, don’t think that just because I don’t say anything, that I believe you. I was born at night, it wasn’t last night. I know when a person is b.s.-ing me. I’ve dealt with a lot of it in my life and trust me, I know when you are lying to my face. Which also is not a good idea. People just amaze me with the things they come up with though. You’re not that clever, trust me.

Hard Work & Determination.

My parents raised a good son.

I am one of those people who believes that no matter where you came from, what you’ve done or where you have been, you can change your life. I realize that I am young still but I do believe that with hard work and determination, you can change your life for the better and never let your old life hold you back.

I hear people all the time say that “kids from broken homes never make it.” Have you met me? Technically speaking, I am a “kid from a broken home.” My parents got divorced about the time I went into middle school. Not once though, did my parents ever put their own interests above mine. Yes, they may not have been able to stay with each other but I never suffered because of it. It may have actually been a good thing. I was able to have two different places I could call “home.” I was also able to meet new people because of it. I was also old enough to understand what was going on and why they couldn’t stay together. I rather have seen them alone and happy then stay together for my sake and be miserable.

It’s funny now because if you look at my mom and dad, you wouldn’t believe that they couldn’t get along at one point. There are two things that my parents agree on: myself and softball. I run a co-ed softball team and the proudest moment I’ve had so far was that my mom was on the pitchers mound pitching, my dad was playing first base and I was able to make a great sliding catch in the outfield. I love the idea that I can play ball with both of my parents and enjoy it. Not many people are lucky enough to say that.

I was also told that “because my parents are both blue collar workers, I will neve be anything more then a blue collar worker.” Now you people are just making me laugh. My mom is a postal worker who has held some pretty respectable positions. She is a blue collar worker though. That hasn’t stopped her for making care packages for the active duty members who are serving our country overseas. She would go shopping at the grocery store and spend more money on them then she did on us. Not because she had too, but because she wanted too. She also helped with promotion of breast cancer awareness stamps. She recieved many awards for that as well. She works very hard for the money she makes and she has a lot to show for it. She helped put me through college, she has a beautiful house, a wonderful dog and she is happy. That’s the most important part, she’s happy. My father is a retired police officer and an Army veteran. He also is very proud of his background, as he should be. He worked hard and he made a difference in a lot of peoples lives. I can tell you stories about the medals he won for saving people’s lives.

On the other hand, I am not really like either of them. I studied hard in school and I went to a great college. I loved every minute of Penn State and I worked hard to earn my degree from there. I now work two jobs because I want to be better than even I thought I could ever be. I am a hardworking individual and I am determined to make it in the world of public relations. Yes, I would love an office job as an executive in the future where I am making great amounts of money but that takes hard work and determination. Both of these things I learned from my parents, who have a completely different background then I do.

From my parents, I have also learned something else. There is one thing that I want to be when I grow up. If I can achieve this, then the rest is really just extra. I want to be happy. Whether it be single, married, divorced, a father or whatever, I want to be happy. I want to wake up every morning because my life is better than my dreams. I want to wake up and be happy to be living the life I am and be happy with who I am. Nothing else matters and the rest will eventually fall into place.

Everchanging Life.

I have a lot of things going on in my life right now that are really making me wonder how I got to where I am.

First off, I’m proud to say that a rep from the United States Army called me personally to ask me to come speak on behalf of the Yellow Ribbon program to their active duty servicemen/women. I am so honored to be asked this. It really hits home that what I am doing for these men and women, is actually paying off. Their next event will be in December and I am hoping to be able to attend that event and speak to the over 500 men and women that will be in attendance.

I am doing a college-veteran mission at my job. I am getting in touch with colleges and working together with them to help their student veterans obtain jobs upon graduation. I am really getting some great positive feedback about it and I just hope that this really does help some vets get jobs once they are graduated.

I was asked to write a guest blog for a company that helps military veterans find companies that are offer special deals for military members for different items they may need. Also, I was asked to present a special webinar on transitioning military members back to civilian life for the Disabled Veterans National Foundation. I have a lot of good things coming up in the future and I am glad that these companies want to work with me to help their veterans.

I’m also trying to move on with my life as well. I reazlie that a lot of things that mattered to me at the beginning of this year, just aren’t worth it and I am trying to be an adult about the situation. I need to focus on me and do what needs to get done. Even if that means cutting some ties with different people/groups, I need to do me right now. I feel like I am settling right now and that’s not what I need. I don’t have a problem settling down, I just have a problem with settling. I was always told to strike while the iron is hot and right now I feel as though the iron couldn’t be any hotter. We will see what happens and where the next few weeks go.

Speaking of weeks going by, I can’t believe we are halfway through October already. Halloween will be here soon enough! Halloween is my favorite holiday of the year, besides New Years. I love the idea of getting dressed up and scaring people/getting scared. I’m such a huge horror movie fan so this is the best time of year. I love how the trees look with all the colors and the ability to walk around in a sweatshirt and jeans and not be hot is perfect for me. I really do love this time of year especially in New York City. I really need to get a great job in midtown, save up some money and move there. That is my ultimate goal in life. Well that and to win a Grammy. Maybe one of the two can happen!

I’m not complaining about my life because I am happy to what has happened thus far. I am just ready for the next step of my journey to begin.