I am writing this post mainly because I was inspired by a post I saw about dating “pr girls.” I feel like the men’s side of this needs a post to explain why we are so crazy sometimes. I am going to put benefits and downsides to this as some are one in the same.
In the world of ad/pr, I deal with all kinds of people. I deal with people who know what they are talking about, who can do their job well and never miss a deadline. On the flip side, I deal with people who try to b.s. me like it’s going out of style. Quick heads up for the second half of those people: I was born at night, it wasn’t last night. You aren’t fooling me and I can say that for anyone in the pr world. We may just accept what you have to say and move on but trust me, the next time we are representing a client, we aren’t using you and your company.
The whole b.s. radar that we have also ties to relationships. I’m not dumb, if you are lying about where you are going or who you are going with, I will know. Save yourself the hassle of picking your stuff off the front lawn and just be honest. If you don’t want to be with me, chances are, I don’t want you either and I already know that and planning to breakup soon. I know what it’s like to be lied to, so trust me, I won’t do it to you. I’ll tell you where I’m going, who I am going with and most of the time, I will want you there. Occasionally, I need a boys night out and will do so. I expect you to have your nights away from me. I’m not asking to be conjoined at the hip, I’m asking for you to love me and respect me.
I worry about my job because it is constantly changing in new directions. Some I see coming, some I don’t. I check my phone at night to make sure there is no crisis to be avoided. I am not being rude, I am doing what needs to get done so I can keep a roof over my head. My parents think that I’m “addicted to Facebook” because of how much I am on my phone. While I work 9-5 Monday through Friday, my job is a constant factor 24/7 365. With all the new social media coming out, I am constantly evolving into more of a social media guru by learning what’s new on Facebook, how Twitter updates are affecting my company, why LinkedIn isn’t working today and why I need to be worried about the wedding you are planning on Pinterest. A lot of people joke with me and say: “All you do is play on social media all day.” I wish I were ‘just playing’ and that I could put it down. The truth is though, if I miss something important, we lose money. If we lose money, it’s my rear end that’s going to get it.
I write, constantly. I am always checking up on the writing from the people in my office also. If something is released and there is a spelling mistake, it’s all me. I am very meticulous about my word usage and vocabulary. This is because I need to be. There is nothing more embarrassing then having your name on a release or alert and something is spelled wrong. My interns know that I double and triple check their work because they are, for lack of a better term, my “babies” and I need to make sure that everything they do ends up being done correctly. So I may come off anal retentive in our relationship but trust me, I don’t mean to be offensive. I mean it because I care and I want everything to go the right way.
I need to be on point, always. I have a list, sometimes two or three, that map out my life. I know what days I have interviews, where I am giving presentations, who I am interacting with and what my next move is going to be. So when I tell you that I need to get down to business, it’s because I need to get down to business. I am so scatter brained with everything going on that I need a schedule and daily list to keep me on track before I miss something important. I never want to miss an appointment nor do I ever want to double book myself and have to cancel. I hate cancelling more than anything else in the world, well besides b.s.-ers who don’t do their job. I need the structure so that I have something to keep me on track.
One of the best things about me is that, as a pr guy, I know first hand from my sources, about the latest info. Whether it’s a new product being released, someone going out of business, huge celebrity news or what not, I can usually get an in. I have to be social or else I am not going to be doing my job the way it needs to be done. I need to be the social butterfly engaging at parties, meeting new people for networking opportunities, traveling for a release and I need someone who accepts that. To answer your question, yes I need to be the life of every party.
In my world, appearance is everything. It’s not about what you wear, look like or say; it’s how you look, say and act. You don’t need to be the most in-shape fit person, but you need to carry yourself well. Self-esteem/confidence is the best attribute you can have. I’m not the most fit guy but I work hard to stay in shape and I care about how I look. First impressions are everything. You never get a second chance at a first impression. You need to make sure you have that warm smile and open personality or else the pr world will eat you alive. Also, don’t be fake. We can see right through that. Be genuine and deal with people the best you can. We all lose it at one point or another, especially me. But it’s how you rectify the situation that is key.
So the next time you look at me and think I’m crazy because of how I act, just know it’s me being me. My charming ways and my sarcastic attitude are just part of my character. The character that has so much on his mind, relaxing is a word I could only dream of. I promise to give you the best part of me that I can. If you can put up with the craziness and ever-changing ways of my life, you will have the best boyfriend/husband ever. That’s the one guarantee in life I can say.